Hi everyone,
I hope that someone may have shared the experience I am currently going through with my Dad. He has mild/moderate Altzeimers and has been cared for by my Mum up until now, although she has been struggling of late as she is 82 with her own health issues. We have some support in place but Dad has always refused point blank to go to a Day Centre/Respite. He spends his days either sitting in his chair or rummaging through his possesions. He gets very unsettled when anyone new comes into the home,doesn't like the TV, music etc... 3 weeks ago he fell and broke his hip. After 2 weeks in Hospital he was moved to a Rehab ward, but they are now telling me they are struggling with him as he is not suitable for "Social Rehab" as he cannot do any of the things they would usually cover anyway. He is agitated and constantly asks where he is, what he's done, he has no recollection of his fall/operation etc and therefore his limitations in respect of his mobility. They are concerned about his safety but they are talking about sending him home with a possible Day Centre package and Respite once or twice a year, but he will also need help washing/dressing, which will mean a raft of Support Workers coming in every day, plus he cannot be left on his own anymore, so that will also mean a sitting service for when Mum has to go out. As she was at breaking point before he did this, I cannot see how she would cope with him and managing all his care services as well. Sadly myself and my Sister live 100's of miles away so are only able to offer support at weekends, and not every one. Much is said of people being better off in their own homes, but with a lack of local support from us and my Mothers condition I cannot see any alternative than Residential Care....has anyone else faced this problem - if so any feedback would be most welcome
I hope that someone may have shared the experience I am currently going through with my Dad. He has mild/moderate Altzeimers and has been cared for by my Mum up until now, although she has been struggling of late as she is 82 with her own health issues. We have some support in place but Dad has always refused point blank to go to a Day Centre/Respite. He spends his days either sitting in his chair or rummaging through his possesions. He gets very unsettled when anyone new comes into the home,doesn't like the TV, music etc... 3 weeks ago he fell and broke his hip. After 2 weeks in Hospital he was moved to a Rehab ward, but they are now telling me they are struggling with him as he is not suitable for "Social Rehab" as he cannot do any of the things they would usually cover anyway. He is agitated and constantly asks where he is, what he's done, he has no recollection of his fall/operation etc and therefore his limitations in respect of his mobility. They are concerned about his safety but they are talking about sending him home with a possible Day Centre package and Respite once or twice a year, but he will also need help washing/dressing, which will mean a raft of Support Workers coming in every day, plus he cannot be left on his own anymore, so that will also mean a sitting service for when Mum has to go out. As she was at breaking point before he did this, I cannot see how she would cope with him and managing all his care services as well. Sadly myself and my Sister live 100's of miles away so are only able to offer support at weekends, and not every one. Much is said of people being better off in their own homes, but with a lack of local support from us and my Mothers condition I cannot see any alternative than Residential Care....has anyone else faced this problem - if so any feedback would be most welcome