Just wanted to say thanks to all those who post on here because the website's offered so much information/advice over the last five years. My mum's funeral is on 17th December (she died on the 24th in her care home, from pneumonia). For me it's been about searching out practical advice, plus the realisation that so many others are going through similar situations, so you really 'aren't alone in this'. I've dealt with what's been happening with my mum, from when she was first sectioned, with the practical help of my husband. Without that there'd have been no help at all, even though I have a twin sister. I became deputy, with all that entails, and had all the admin/funeral arrangements to deal with, and after Christmas I'll have to deal with my executor duties. My personal advice to others who are looking for handholding on here, is set up your own thread to talk about it. I didn't because it's not something I do, but I'm sure (hope) that I'd have got plenty of supportive messages if I had. As it is, over the last couple of weeks I've mentioned my mum's death on other people's threads and (obviously, because it wasn't about me or her) never had any acknowledgement of it. Just one reply that shows it's been acknowledged would make a difference. So I reiterate, if you need your own personal acknowledgment of what you're going through (which, I'm sure, we all do) make sure you put it out there. There are loads of brilliant people on here who will let you know they understand what you're going through and you're in their thoughts. Take advantage of that. This website is a great resource.