just needed to get some of your opinions on our situation really. pete went into NH on Monday after being in assessment unit for 3months. after a search we finally settled on NH and pete seems to have settled quite well were expecting some ups an down but ater not sleeping in his bed for the last 3months since being in NH has sleeped on or in bed so alls good so far. what I need help with is how can I help an support my sister. she has lung an bone cancer so as you can imagine pete isn't her only problem. she is doubting herself that she has picked the wrong home for pete she is finding everything very upsetting. she has just said its final but not final because petes still living with this bloody awfull desease. I just would like to know how you have dealt with youyr feelings or how you would have liked others to help you when your partners went into home. pete talks what I call gobbledygook but I can talk that to so we can talk for ages its all about work an what hes going to do or how he is gonna re do the garden in the home. he asks me if my sister has another man but im sure that's all normal . I would say he is very advanced and consultant said a well person couldn't cope never mind someone in my sisters condition so its out of the question to imagine he could live at home . so there it is. any help appreciated juniepoonie