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katmat

Registered User
Dec 23, 2015
1
How can I get my mam to go to out She is so stubborn sits in the chair day be length doing her wordsearch If I mention getting up and about she ignores me
 

Cat27

Volunteer Moderator
Feb 27, 2015
11,601
Merseyside
Welcome to TP :)

Unfortunately you can't make her go out. She probably feels safe at home so wants to stay there.
 

hvml

Registered User
Oct 10, 2015
297
North Cornwall
Hi katmat.

My experience of dementia is that you can't apply 'normal' rules of behaviour and need to adjust your own to your mum's patterns. As Cat says, she probably feels safe at home and in a familiar place. The confusion that comes with this horrible disease is awful for all concerned and must be terrifying for the sufferer. Going out is a nice thing for us, but there are all sorts of unknowns involved and it's understandable that people may avoid it.

Heidi xx
 

Witzend

Registered User
Aug 29, 2007
4,291
SW London
Beyond a relatively early stage I could hardly ever get my mother out, either. If I did ever manage it, she would be fretting so much half a mile down the road that I would have to take her back. In the end I gave up - it just wasn't worth the hassle. As others have said, I think it's because the person feels safe and comfortable at home. To be honest, I wouldn't waste breath or energy trying to fight it.
 

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