1. Expert Q&A: Benefits - Weds 23 October, 3-4pm

    Our next expert Q&A will be on the topic of benefits. It will be hosted by Lauren from our Knowledge Services team. She'll be answering your questions on Wednesday 23 October between 3-4pm.

    You can either post your question >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll be happy to ask them on your behalf.

  1. katmat

    katmat Registered User

    Dec 23, 2015
    1
    How can I get my mam to go to out She is so stubborn sits in the chair day be length doing her wordsearch If I mention getting up and about she ignores me
     
  2. Cat27

    Cat27 Volunteer Moderator

    Feb 27, 2015
    10,222
    Merseyside
    Welcome to TP :)

    Unfortunately you can't make her go out. She probably feels safe at home so wants to stay there.
     
  3. hvml

    hvml Registered User

    Oct 10, 2015
    300
    North Cornwall
    Hi katmat.

    My experience of dementia is that you can't apply 'normal' rules of behaviour and need to adjust your own to your mum's patterns. As Cat says, she probably feels safe at home and in a familiar place. The confusion that comes with this horrible disease is awful for all concerned and must be terrifying for the sufferer. Going out is a nice thing for us, but there are all sorts of unknowns involved and it's understandable that people may avoid it.

    Heidi xx
     
  4. Witzend

    Witzend Registered User

    Aug 29, 2007
    4,296
    SW London
    Beyond a relatively early stage I could hardly ever get my mother out, either. If I did ever manage it, she would be fretting so much half a mile down the road that I would have to take her back. In the end I gave up - it just wasn't worth the hassle. As others have said, I think it's because the person feels safe and comfortable at home. To be honest, I wouldn't waste breath or energy trying to fight it.
     

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