I haven't been on the Forum for a while but tonight's carry on has led me back.
Previous threads will show you my difficult domestic situation, ie, auntie, mum and uncle. Due to an unexpected death in the family my mother has to attend a funeral next week and should have a bath to go there. That's my opinion and the uncles. Not bathed or washed for FOUR YEARS.
Sisters agreed (reluctantly) to meet me tonight at 6pm to attempt the task. I had everything ready; the immersion heater on, the towels, clean bedclothes etc. Sisters both came up with excuses (as usual) and didn't turn up. (They don't have families; I have two boys to attend to). So the feelings of annoyance and resentment step in.
Anyway, the bath didn't happen. Mum said "I have a bath every night". She doesn't of course and then she started calling me a "liar", "bossy", "think you are so perfect", etc, etc. She said she would "go off and kill herself and then I wouldn't have to worry". Shouting and bawling and not being able to stick to one task at once in the freezing house that has no heating at all. (She can't remember to switch the heating on). All this was happening whilst trying to jump over cat muck all over the kitchen floor. (Mum spends no waking time in her own house; just sleeps there).
Anyway, needless to say, the bath just did not happen and she is still foul smelling. Previously I have been onto SS who say "these things take time; you could just start with wipes"! I couldn't believe it actually when they said that. I just don't think that is acceptable. They are flippin useless.
I am at my wits end and really don't know how to carry on.
What strategy do I employ? I wish this would stop.
Previous threads will show you my difficult domestic situation, ie, auntie, mum and uncle. Due to an unexpected death in the family my mother has to attend a funeral next week and should have a bath to go there. That's my opinion and the uncles. Not bathed or washed for FOUR YEARS.
Sisters agreed (reluctantly) to meet me tonight at 6pm to attempt the task. I had everything ready; the immersion heater on, the towels, clean bedclothes etc. Sisters both came up with excuses (as usual) and didn't turn up. (They don't have families; I have two boys to attend to). So the feelings of annoyance and resentment step in.
Anyway, the bath didn't happen. Mum said "I have a bath every night". She doesn't of course and then she started calling me a "liar", "bossy", "think you are so perfect", etc, etc. She said she would "go off and kill herself and then I wouldn't have to worry". Shouting and bawling and not being able to stick to one task at once in the freezing house that has no heating at all. (She can't remember to switch the heating on). All this was happening whilst trying to jump over cat muck all over the kitchen floor. (Mum spends no waking time in her own house; just sleeps there).
Anyway, needless to say, the bath just did not happen and she is still foul smelling. Previously I have been onto SS who say "these things take time; you could just start with wipes"! I couldn't believe it actually when they said that. I just don't think that is acceptable. They are flippin useless.
I am at my wits end and really don't know how to carry on.
What strategy do I employ? I wish this would stop.