Bad Social Worker and Sisters have taken a side against me

[GinaBear]

Good morning everyone.

This is quite long. Im going to keep as short as possible.

Ive taken care of my elderly parents aline for years. Social worker is involved and from the day she met me tried to convince me to give her my LPA. My other sister hasnt spoken to my parentsfor 10 years and has now taken over. My eldest sister refused to help me care but is now sided up against me with my sister with LPA. The social worker doesn't speak to me. Im being bullied by so many people very badly. My sister who didnt help me but is now helping my other sister with LPA. They recently took my dad to a hospital appointment without informing me. And they wrote in the note book the outcome which was my father has cancer. I had to read that in a note book!

My sister who doesn't have LPA is applying for Financial and Property deputyship. I am against. But its become very obvious that they're getting the garden ready etc to sell. Ive read a LPA can do this. Social services support them. They do not return my calls etc. They deemed my father financially without capacity. What do I do? They are getting worse. I have emailed the OPG to request forms to do this myself. I respect my parents. My mum is in a care home dad still lives in the house. I really hope what ive read online is wrong. Im really being bullied.

 

[Jessbow]

Why would your sister be applying for deputyship if another sister has LPA?
How did she become LPA anyway if you had it? You cant just pass it around!
Who is actually named on the paperwork?

Depending on where you father has cancer, its quite possible e will need to go into care, in which case, the house will need to be sold.

 

[Collywobbles]

Only the Office of Public Guardian or the Court of Protection can remove someone's LPA. If neither have been in touch directly with you, then your LPA remains live.

An LPA cannot be set up by someone without legal capacity, so if your father has dementia, setting up a new LPA with your sister would not be legal.

You need to contact another organisation and get legal advice. You keep posting here about this situation, but this is essentially now a legal matter and you need specialist advice on how to proceed. There’s only so much we can offer in terms of the practicalities, but we can certainly offer support in this horrible situation.

As you appear to have been taken advantage of for many years, maybe it’s time to step back and let others take the strain. It may be best to focus on your own recovery. Caring for someone with both dementia and cancer, is a specialist nursing job. It sounds like now is the right time for his care to be handed over to professionals. As infuriating as this must feel, if you’re not agreeing to this, it might be seen that you’re not acting in your father’s best interests. Prioritise yourself.

 

[GinaBear]

Why would your sister be applying for deputyship if another sister has LPA?
How did she become LPA anyway if you had it? You cant just pass it around!
Who is actually named on the paperwork?

Depending on where you father has cancer, its quite possible e will need to go into care, in which case, the house will need to be sold.

 

[GinaBear]

At the moment being kept out of everything makes your questions hard to answer. Im named as is my younger sister. The cancer will not require care. I appreciate your message but im afraid I found it quite abrasive.

Thank you for your response though. I really need some support. Even abrasive! xx

 

[GinaBear]

Only the Office of Public Guardian or the Court of Protection can remove someone's LPA. If neither have been in touch directly with you, then your LPA remains live.

An LPA cannot be set up by someone without legal capacity, so if your father has dementia, setting up a new LPA with your sister would not be legal.

You need to contact another organisation and get legal advice. You keep posting here about this situation, but this is essentially now a legal matter and you need specialist advice on how to proceed. There’s only so much we can offer in terms of the practicalities, but we can certainly offer support in this horrible situation.

As you appear to have been taken advantage of for many years, maybe it’s time to step back and let others take the strain. It may be best to focus on your own recovery. Caring for someone with both dementia and cancer, is a specialist nursing job. It sounds like now is the right time for his care to be handed over to professionals. As infuriating as this must feel, if you’re not agreeing to this, it might be seen that you’re not acting in your father’s best interests. Prioritise yourself.

The social worker is supporting.

I apologize for sending out the same message. I don't mean you bore you so much. I need legal aid.

 

[Chizz]

Hi @GinaBear
Your last post said you need legal aid.
If you are seeking legal advice, there will be solicitors around and you'll need to check - not all solicitors offer legal aid. Not all solicitors specialise in matters relating to LPoAs or Court of Protection or law for the elderly, but there is an Association of Lifetime Lawyers whose members do. Either look online for solicitors in your area, and you may need to phone them to see if they offer legal aid, and deal with these kind of cases. Many solicitors offer a first interview - to discuss your problems - without a charge. You'll need to get your paperwork together, if you have any, like the LPoA.
Best wishes

 

[SAP]

@GinaBear , your posts are not boring but they are concerning. I feel that some people in your life are giving you miss information so here are a few facts.
You can’t be asked to give your LPA to anyone else. Only the Office of Public Guardianship can remove and LPA if they think there is foul play. Only your parents can change their LPAs if they have mental capacity.
If the LPA with you and one sister as attorneys is to act jointly, then she can’t do anything without your consent. However it is is to act jointly and severally you can both act independently on behalf of your parents and it MUST be in their best interests. These two facts are for finance and welfare LPAs.
There is no point in anyone applying for deputyship as there are LPAs in place.
You are right you really do need legal advice from a qualified lawyer. Maybe the CAB will be able to tell you how to get legal aid and which solicitors can accept it.

 

[Collywobbles]

The social worker is supporting.

I apologize for sending out the same message. I don't mean you bore you so much. I need legal aid.

Absolutely not boring, but the emphasis is deeply concerning. I hope you find a way through this. As has been said above, you seem to have been misinformed about LPAs.