My sister and I have been full time carers for our mother for a long time.This year was a real struggle. My sister doesnt want to do it anymore-too tired, cant see our mother like this anymore, worried about her own health. Im 100% supportive of her decision. My mother changed alot this year. But what do I do know-hire full time help, specialised care at home, move to a facility. Im tired, the nights are hard. Home help 45 mins a day but they cant give seizure meds so thats a worry. The meds might stop the seizure quickly-last time she hurt both ankles and writs and needed xrays-very hard getting her xrays as you can imagine. Its a sad time as we have been through so much together and never got any acknowledgement or help from siblings-just contstant attacks from people.We got through it and sometimes I cant believe we have got this far. My mother has dnr in place, had seizures, multiple infections, speech is quite poor and i losing weight.It really was a **** year.