Evening all, I guess like many of those posting on here, I am feeling lost, confused, conflicted and damn well scared. My parents (who live 130 miles away) exist in a constant malaise. Last year Mom very nearly succeeded in taking her own life. The stress of home added to multiple health issues and dreadful mental health led to it. My Mom is in her late 60s and Dad in late 70's. Dad without doubt has dementia issues, as did both his mother and father who both died whilst suffering from severe Alzheimers. My Dad's behaviour has deteriorated over the last 5-6 years however the last 18 months have seen him deteriorate even quicker. He is obsessive, miserable, argumentative, vile-tempered, aggressive and makes up stories over and over again. I have witnessed all of this first hand and regularly listen to his vile worded rants at the people he lives with. It is much worse when he has had a drink once a week, where her argues and rants at and with other similar minded people. To note, my nieces, aged 18 and 22 have lived with my parents for most of the last decade. I feel very sorry for them all. It is a small house and my nieces arrived in horrible circumstances. My parents have done a wonderful job of resurrecting as much as they can of two very damaged girls. Their love and support can not be questioned. But it's too much for them. After my Mom coming so close to leaving us, I hoped some things would change. But it all seems just to have returned to the same again whilst my Dad gets worse. Last weekend the Ambulance and Police services had to be called because Dad had fallen over after lashing out at my nieces. The Ambulance service then called the police. But Mom said they weren't in any danger and were ok, so it was dropped. I don't want to criminalise my father but how much worse do things have to get? I have spoken to his GP who will attempt to do an assessment when he next goes. But they say someone needs to go with him to offer their views. But he will not let anyone go with him, and will 'put on a show' for others. I really do not know what else to do to help them all before we end up in a disaster. I realise that is a rant and, for anyone who made it to this part, I am truly thankful! K.