Hi, As some of you know I have started looking at care homes this week for my Dad.
I started with an empty brand new one and have then been to 6 others. At every one residents are just sitting in chairs with very little interaction with staff. when we were being shown around one a Gentleman came up and was talking. The carer just ignored him for as long as she possibly could. I know she was trying to talk to us and what he was saying wasn't making sense but he obviouly knew what he was talking about! What makes this worse is that this was the home being transfered to the brand new one and I was hoping that the staff would all seem as good as the new building looks. If that makes sense!
Whilst we were standing there I was smiling at him and he was smiling back. The carer eventually did speak to him and touched his face. I guess this showed she cared but I just kept thinking "that could be my Dad" that wants some attention.
Most residents were just sat around in groups. I know I am probably being stupid as of course they are going to be sat around. I don't really know what I expected as Dad just sits in his chair at home now and only really talks to me if I talk to him.
All of this is made a million times worse now as again today he kept asking me to take him home with me. Even asking me to get my other half so he could take him. I feel so awful as this is all out of my hands, he would of been living with me if it wasn't for the family. why do people insist on burying their heads in the sand? And they very family members that wouldn't help a couple of years ago when I was trying to plan for Dad's future are the ones saying that he shouldn't be on his own!
sorry i am ranting again but I know that someone reading this will understand a little of what I am feeling at the moment and this is such good therapy!
Sally
I started with an empty brand new one and have then been to 6 others. At every one residents are just sitting in chairs with very little interaction with staff. when we were being shown around one a Gentleman came up and was talking. The carer just ignored him for as long as she possibly could. I know she was trying to talk to us and what he was saying wasn't making sense but he obviouly knew what he was talking about! What makes this worse is that this was the home being transfered to the brand new one and I was hoping that the staff would all seem as good as the new building looks. If that makes sense!
Whilst we were standing there I was smiling at him and he was smiling back. The carer eventually did speak to him and touched his face. I guess this showed she cared but I just kept thinking "that could be my Dad" that wants some attention.
Most residents were just sat around in groups. I know I am probably being stupid as of course they are going to be sat around. I don't really know what I expected as Dad just sits in his chair at home now and only really talks to me if I talk to him.
All of this is made a million times worse now as again today he kept asking me to take him home with me. Even asking me to get my other half so he could take him. I feel so awful as this is all out of my hands, he would of been living with me if it wasn't for the family. why do people insist on burying their heads in the sand? And they very family members that wouldn't help a couple of years ago when I was trying to plan for Dad's future are the ones saying that he shouldn't be on his own!
sorry i am ranting again but I know that someone reading this will understand a little of what I am feeling at the moment and this is such good therapy!
Sally