I am helping to look after my mother in law, who made my life a misery for 30 years BEFORE she became ill. I now find, having taken early retirement, that I am the one sorting out all her problems and care issues. Is anyone else caring for someone, and having to deal with the fact that you could never stand them anyway. I feel really resentful that this has fallen to me, while her blood family are just occasional visitors she is glad to see [at the moment!]. They can turn up with a bunch of flowers for half an hour at week ends - unless they are going away of course, and cant possibly make it. Everyone else I have read about seems to be caring for a loved one. The way I feel does not make me an ideal candidate for the position, but her family seem to be living in denial about how bad she is. They dont want the fuss of changing their lives to help. Makes my blood boil.