I do find just offloading therapeutic especially when it concerns content I don’t feel I can share with anyone I know easily, so thank you for taking the time.
My OH was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s a year ago and he has deteriorated in lots of little ways. I retired just before this and so we are together 24 hours a day. I know with the absence of work and the issue that our children are both living away I have had probably too much time to reflect on our marriage and I am feeling very resentful now.
my husband had a 7 year affair 25 years ago and I still feel aggrieved.At the time I had him back as I had a 4 year old and my mum had recently died. We did go on to have a son and these two children have been the delight in my life. My OH has continued to hurt me in various ways that he doesn’t recognise and he has been totally impotent since 2008 so I am now a wife with unhappy memories,unfulfilled sexually and emotionally and financially as I have always worked.and yet now expected to look after him. He constantly looks at porn, apologises when I find out but doesn’t stop. I don’t love him now I know and the future looks bleak as I don’t want to look after him.
Luckily I am resilient but why is it us that make all the compromises and have to adjust when he just carries on relying on me.
I could and do scream at the unfairness I feel
it does help to put my feelings down in black and white!
My OH was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s a year ago and he has deteriorated in lots of little ways. I retired just before this and so we are together 24 hours a day. I know with the absence of work and the issue that our children are both living away I have had probably too much time to reflect on our marriage and I am feeling very resentful now.
my husband had a 7 year affair 25 years ago and I still feel aggrieved.At the time I had him back as I had a 4 year old and my mum had recently died. We did go on to have a son and these two children have been the delight in my life. My OH has continued to hurt me in various ways that he doesn’t recognise and he has been totally impotent since 2008 so I am now a wife with unhappy memories,unfulfilled sexually and emotionally and financially as I have always worked.and yet now expected to look after him. He constantly looks at porn, apologises when I find out but doesn’t stop. I don’t love him now I know and the future looks bleak as I don’t want to look after him.
Luckily I am resilient but why is it us that make all the compromises and have to adjust when he just carries on relying on me.
I could and do scream at the unfairness I feel
it does help to put my feelings down in black and white!