Hi,
Finally got around to registering. Having read just some of the messages, I am heartened by all you good, loving brave people out there.
My 79 yr old mother has a diagnosis of vascular dementia. She has probably had it developing for several years, but it was only 18 months ago when my dad died, we realised quite how bad she was getting. It ended up with my brother and I getting power of attorney, and my aunt, my mum's sister, giving up her flat and moving in to live with and care for my mum.
If my aunt had not been so selfless I am sure my mum would be in a home by now. My brother and his wife live close by and pop in 2-3 times a week. I live a couple of hours away with my family, and feel guilty about not being able to do very much to help...
And if you have read this far, can I ask some advice?
Mum is insisting on wearing the same clothes for several days, and even making excuses - "I was in bed for most of yesterday so I only wore these clothes for a couple of hours in the evening", when in fact she had been up and about all day. She also ends up wearing oldest, most shapeless clothes, despite having wardrobes full of clothes, some still with their tags on.
I have read the fact sheet on dressing, but how do we best go about getting her to change her clothes and get rid of some of the old ones?
Thanks
Green Man
Finally got around to registering. Having read just some of the messages, I am heartened by all you good, loving brave people out there.
My 79 yr old mother has a diagnosis of vascular dementia. She has probably had it developing for several years, but it was only 18 months ago when my dad died, we realised quite how bad she was getting. It ended up with my brother and I getting power of attorney, and my aunt, my mum's sister, giving up her flat and moving in to live with and care for my mum.
If my aunt had not been so selfless I am sure my mum would be in a home by now. My brother and his wife live close by and pop in 2-3 times a week. I live a couple of hours away with my family, and feel guilty about not being able to do very much to help...
And if you have read this far, can I ask some advice?
Mum is insisting on wearing the same clothes for several days, and even making excuses - "I was in bed for most of yesterday so I only wore these clothes for a couple of hours in the evening", when in fact she had been up and about all day. She also ends up wearing oldest, most shapeless clothes, despite having wardrobes full of clothes, some still with their tags on.
I have read the fact sheet on dressing, but how do we best go about getting her to change her clothes and get rid of some of the old ones?
Thanks
Green Man