Dad has been in respite Enhanced unit since before xmas prior to that he spent three weeks in a dementia home as Mum had to go into hospital. He has been unable to go home and he has deteriorated quite badly. Not sure if this is the medication or dementia related. His mobility is poor and has had several falls over the last few weeks. He was brought back from hospital yesterday with a fractured pubic bone. Staff were told to keep him in bed but were unable to put up a bed guard or crash mat because he might cause himself more injury. Anyway the home have only recently informed me that they don't think he meets the enhanced criteria and are looking to reassess it. They only took him in before as he had been unable to settle at the previous home and was verbally aggressive and constantly trying to escape. The problem is as I live three hours away and also do not have POA I am unsure where we go from here. Dad was mostly calm at home although did have a tendency to wander down the street and as mum was disabled she was unable to stop him. I am worried if they move him to another less staffed home we will be back where we started. Mum has recently gone for a temporary spell in a care home after going in and out of hospital and respite for 5 months. The best case scenario for Dad is that he could be with mum although not at home. But one problem is she hopes her stay at the home will be temporary, although I doubt that as she has a lot of medical problems. So it would seem unsettling to put him with her for her to leave again. Also I'm not sure she will want him with her. Sorry for the ramblings just want to do the best for Dad but not sure if there is an answer. Been a long and stressful day!