On Wednesday this week, we had eldest daughters graduation. We had a fab day, I am such a proud Mum - but there is no doubt that it was bloody hard work, catering to Mil and her needs, and though I am so glad we were able to pull off having Nan there, for my oldest, if I'm honest, both hubs and I would have had an much less stressful day without her there.
Tonight, youngest daughter is in a show with her theatre group. She has a small solo, and its the last show of the current year. And I have decided that I am not taking Mil
I have a list of reasons why - its a late night, which Mil struggles with, for a start. Mil gets so agitated and demanding whenever there is an 'event', that the run up is completely fraught and not a nice experience for us or her. My closest friend is going with us (her daughter is in the same group, though not in this show) and Mil has - er, lets call them 'issues' - when my friend and I get together. She hates us chatting about anything that doesn't directly involve her, and generally ends up either butting in conversations with increasingly rude remarks, or she 'sulks' and 'huffs'. When we are at home, its OK - my friend is 100% understanding, never takes offence and is never anything other than polite and lovely with Mil - but on this occasion she has paid for tickets to a show that we are both looking forward to seeing - I don't want Mil making it uncomfortable.
And selfishly - I just want to enjoy the evening, without spending the whole time anticipating and reacting to Mils wants and needs.
We've told Mil that tickets are limited and that its my oldest daughters' turn to 'go'. Its a complete lie - but I just didn't know how else to explain without upsetting her.
This morning she 'remembers' that youngest has a 'party' tonight. And she remembers that there is 'no room for her to be invited' And she keeps telling me that its a 'shame' because she would have 'enjoyed it, so much'.
Guilt monster has me firmly in its grip, and I think if I could get her a ticket for an adjoining seat at this late stage, I probably would do - and a bit of me is very glad that there is no ticket available, which makes me feel even worse
Tonight, youngest daughter is in a show with her theatre group. She has a small solo, and its the last show of the current year. And I have decided that I am not taking Mil
I have a list of reasons why - its a late night, which Mil struggles with, for a start. Mil gets so agitated and demanding whenever there is an 'event', that the run up is completely fraught and not a nice experience for us or her. My closest friend is going with us (her daughter is in the same group, though not in this show) and Mil has - er, lets call them 'issues' - when my friend and I get together. She hates us chatting about anything that doesn't directly involve her, and generally ends up either butting in conversations with increasingly rude remarks, or she 'sulks' and 'huffs'. When we are at home, its OK - my friend is 100% understanding, never takes offence and is never anything other than polite and lovely with Mil - but on this occasion she has paid for tickets to a show that we are both looking forward to seeing - I don't want Mil making it uncomfortable.
And selfishly - I just want to enjoy the evening, without spending the whole time anticipating and reacting to Mils wants and needs.
We've told Mil that tickets are limited and that its my oldest daughters' turn to 'go'. Its a complete lie - but I just didn't know how else to explain without upsetting her.
This morning she 'remembers' that youngest has a 'party' tonight. And she remembers that there is 'no room for her to be invited' And she keeps telling me that its a 'shame' because she would have 'enjoyed it, so much'.
Guilt monster has me firmly in its grip, and I think if I could get her a ticket for an adjoining seat at this late stage, I probably would do - and a bit of me is very glad that there is no ticket available, which makes me feel even worse