An insight into Carer Guilt

[lilysmybabypup]

Dad has been in a CH for a week now, and I walk away every time feeling an enormous cavern of emptiness that's only filled with an even greater quantity of guilt mixed with devastation and helplessness.

I found this gentleman's detailed website journal of his wife's battle with Alzheimer's and identified deeply with his emotions. Read it and see if it echoes your own emotions.

http://www.junebergalzheimers.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=12&Itemid=34

As Always, much love to all who share this path.
Stephanie, xxx

 

[1954]

I read it and it is sad very sad

I hope your dad settles in ok. I am sure the guilt must be awful for you but you had no choice. Dementia's is at fault

 

[grobertson62]

Hi Stephanie
Having already trodden the path you now walk. it does get easier. With the journey comes a form of acceptance. Acceptance that they are cared for 24/7 and you couldnt do it alone.
It does mean when you visit it is just that. A visit. No need to check food levels meds cook clean was iron etc.
So i do pray things go well love Gill

 

[steffie60]

How sad this story is and yet it echoes the path that so many of us walk. I like his term love givers over care givers as this much resonates with the interaction between my mother and myself. I have said to Mum that I will look after her at home for as long as I can and I know if she has to go into a CH I will be devastated.

Thank you for sharing this:

 

[Mamsgirl]

Too fragile right now to read this Stephanie, though I'll come back to it. Beginning to think Guilty is my middle name, only because Never Makes The Right Decision is a bit long Hugs, Toni x