My husband has been diagnosed with dementia. It is in the early stages and he is on Donepezil and Mermantine. I am having great difficulty coming to terms with his condition. Most of the time he is perfectly ok, he can socialise and be very pleasant. However in private, he increasingly blames me for everything that goes wrong, when I try to help he doesn’t want it, if I just stand by and do nothing, I am useless and uncaring! The “blame” rages are ongoing and he is becoming increasingly aggressive with me. He says it is all my fault, I am uncaring and stressed out. I agree, I am stressed out, and I must admit I do “snap” back from time to time! I am beginning to wonder if some of the problem is with me! (However I do feel like I am being “gas lighted” sometimes!). It is hard to be objective when your self esteem is being eroded, constantly being told you’re useless and called awful names! Reasoning with him does no good as he is convinced (most of the time) that I am useless to him and making his dementia worse! Sorry to rant on, but I needed to get it off my chest and it helps knowing that people using this group are in the same position as me and will understand!