Hi everyone, I’m posting as I dont know what else to do!
My mum has Alzheimer's (mid-late stage) and i’ve moved home to help my dad care for her. (They are both in their 70s).
Mum is refusing to wash (no shower, wont wash hair) and is also refusing to change her underwear.
We have tried everything! Have suggested a pamper day, a trip to the hairdressers, a flannel wash but everything we suggest is met with aggression & refusal. We even bought some shampoo caps but they are gathering dust.
She is getting really smelly & my Dad is getting very stressed which I'm worried about as he isn't in the best health himself.
She has not washed since April & currently is wearing 3 pairs of knickers and a pair of socks she hasn't changed (also since April).
Im concerned she will get sores or an infection and her feet must be very painful.
We lay out fresh clothes for her everyday. We have bought multiples of the same clothing but still she wont change. If we suggest she changes we are met with “it’s my body, my choice!” Or she will point blank refuse to saying she has already changed.
She throws tantrums and has started to hit us/slam doors and we’ve just got to that point where we dont know what else to do.
We have had a carers assessment - about 4 weeks ago now & they have suggested a carer to come in 3x a week in the mornings but we think this could take a while to set up.
Has anyone got any other suggestions we can try to get her clean?
My mum has Alzheimer's (mid-late stage) and i’ve moved home to help my dad care for her. (They are both in their 70s).
Mum is refusing to wash (no shower, wont wash hair) and is also refusing to change her underwear.
We have tried everything! Have suggested a pamper day, a trip to the hairdressers, a flannel wash but everything we suggest is met with aggression & refusal. We even bought some shampoo caps but they are gathering dust.
She is getting really smelly & my Dad is getting very stressed which I'm worried about as he isn't in the best health himself.
She has not washed since April & currently is wearing 3 pairs of knickers and a pair of socks she hasn't changed (also since April).
Im concerned she will get sores or an infection and her feet must be very painful.
We lay out fresh clothes for her everyday. We have bought multiples of the same clothing but still she wont change. If we suggest she changes we are met with “it’s my body, my choice!” Or she will point blank refuse to saying she has already changed.
She throws tantrums and has started to hit us/slam doors and we’ve just got to that point where we dont know what else to do.
We have had a carers assessment - about 4 weeks ago now & they have suggested a carer to come in 3x a week in the mornings but we think this could take a while to set up.
Has anyone got any other suggestions we can try to get her clean?