@Banjomansmate unfortunately it doesn't seem to matter who it is, or what time of day, dad lashes and kicks out. to the point where they can't really do a proper change and wash. I wouldn't normally try medication (i never take anything myself if i can help it) but it's getting to the point where he's not getting the care he needs. @silver'lantern yes, that's a big part of it, i agree. but no amount of reassurance on that point seems to help.