Aggression, continued. Help!

Discussion in 'I care for a person with dementia' started by Kay111, Nov 12, 2019.

  1. Kay111

    Kay111 Registered User

    Sep 19, 2019
    105
    @Banjomansmate unfortunately it doesn't seem to matter who it is, or what time of day, dad lashes and kicks out. to the point where they can't really do a proper change and wash. I wouldn't normally try medication (i never take anything myself if i can help it) but it's getting to the point where he's not getting the care he needs.

    @silver'lantern yes, that's a big part of it, i agree. but no amount of reassurance on that point seems to help.
     
  2. Roseleigh

    Roseleigh Registered User

    Dec 26, 2016
    273
    Water which was uncomfortably hot or cold? My OH is a little bit hydrophobic too. Last week he had just got shaved with my help then after I emptied the bowl, turned tap on for him to rinse with clean water he flipped into psycho mode and said he wasnt 'going anywhere near that'! I think its based on an irrational fear of tthe temperature having had one or two unpleasant experiences. If its slightly uncomfortably hot he insists its 'burning'.

    Would he let your mum wash him?
     
  3. Avis

    Avis Registered User

    Nov 2, 2019
    62
    Speak to your doctor about this and he/she may be able to provide a solution. Perhaps some sedation just before his shower or change might be in order. He should be able to have his personal care needs met without hurting himself or others.
     
  4. Avis

    Avis Registered User

    Nov 2, 2019
    62
    Perhaps he can use a face flannel to wash his face with. Get him to feel the temperature and ask if it is alright. That way he may feel he has a little more control.
     
  5. Kay111

    Kay111 Registered User

    Sep 19, 2019
    105
    @Roseleigh - yes, he does say if the water is too hot or cold, so maybe it's all linked with a past experience. He was difficult with mum washing him too, but not quite as difficult.

    @Avis - if I can ever get round to seeing a doctor! I'd requested one yesterday and still none came. Livid.
     
  6. Roseleigh

    Roseleigh Registered User

    Dec 26, 2016
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