I wonder if anyone has any advice to help me.
My grandad is in the early stages of alzheimer's and my gran is his main carer. They both have other medical conditions to deal with as well.
My gran is finding things very hard to deal with. I have tried to help, but I don't seem to be able to do anything right. I've asked what they would like me to do but she says I don't understand and can't help. I have tried
• Finding clubs that might entertain them and taking them to them (or at least offering)
• Taking my grandad out to give my gran a break
• Taking the two of them out to the shops/for lunch
• Going round to sit with them
• Inviting them to come to my house for a meal or just tea
Almost all off my offers are declined and if I arrive unannounced, I am not allowed in or to take them out. My gran continues to tell me that she can't cope and needs help, but I can't find any way to help her. When I ask her directly, she doesn't know what she wants.
At what point should I bring in professional carers during the week when I am at work and unavailable to help?
I want to help them both, but don't know how. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.
My grandad is in the early stages of alzheimer's and my gran is his main carer. They both have other medical conditions to deal with as well.
My gran is finding things very hard to deal with. I have tried to help, but I don't seem to be able to do anything right. I've asked what they would like me to do but she says I don't understand and can't help. I have tried
• Finding clubs that might entertain them and taking them to them (or at least offering)
• Taking my grandad out to give my gran a break
• Taking the two of them out to the shops/for lunch
• Going round to sit with them
• Inviting them to come to my house for a meal or just tea
Almost all off my offers are declined and if I arrive unannounced, I am not allowed in or to take them out. My gran continues to tell me that she can't cope and needs help, but I can't find any way to help her. When I ask her directly, she doesn't know what she wants.
At what point should I bring in professional carers during the week when I am at work and unavailable to help?
I want to help them both, but don't know how. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.