1. sheelz

    sheelz Registered User

    Sep 1, 2014
    35
    Hope someone can help..........my mob has vascular dementia has been on another turning point this weekend, she thought my sister still lived with her, when I told our mom she hasn't lived with her for 40 years, she lives with her husband and has been married for over 10 years, mom now thinks my sister got married in secret and didn't invite mom to her wedding. I tried to explain that she didn't get married in secret and mom went to the wedding but she doesn't believe me, I have said to mom why don't you talk to my sister about it and all mom says is that she's not going to say anything to my sister because she didn't invite her to the wedding. Mom got agitated and angry with me because she obviously thought I'd been invited and she hadn't so I let the conversation drops or the time. My sister and I are wondering if we show mom her wedding photos which she is obviously in them. will it make her more angry or more confused ? Or not mention it. We don't know what to do for the best. Thanks for reading
     
  2. Beate

    Beate Registered User

    May 21, 2014
    11,696
    Female
    London
  3. Witzend

    Witzend Registered User

    Aug 29, 2007
    4,295
    SW London
    It's very difficult, but it's often no use trying to convince someone when they've got this sort of idea in their head. It can go right against the grain, but going along with it. - Oh, Lord, dear me, I had no idea - or, Well, I'll certainly have to see about that, etc. is often the least stressful way. I had similar things with my mother - even cast iron proof would not have convinced her - and if I tried rational explanations, however patient, she would just get angry and accuse me of being 'in league' with whoever it was.
     
  4. sheelz

    sheelz Registered User

    Sep 1, 2014
    35
    Thank you so much for the link, I know it's going to be very useful, I've already taken a copy for myself and also forwarded it to my sister.
     

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