Hi
I could do with some advice please, hopefully this hasn't posted twice as my screen shut down when I submitted it last time!
I have taken time off of work to look after my Mum. I live a long way away from her and it has been impossible to try and handle things from so far away and work full time.
I have a social care worker assessing Mum and she has suggested that Mum moves from her sheltered accommodation to be nearer me.
I would love to have my Mum nearer me but they are suggesting that she moves in to accommodation on her own.
My query is this, Mum is very confused, she's 87 and surely moving her at this stage would just make her worse? The care worker seems to think Mum would be bad for a couple of weeks but then forget where she was previously anyway.
I have misgivings about it as I doubt if another Sheltered Housing Scheme would take Mum at this stage and would it be fair to put her through all the upheaval only to then have to move her into a home anyway?
Would she almost be better to move into a home at this stage where she could be close to me so I can visit her and she is safe and well cared for before she gets worse.
She is now at the stage where she is having falls isn't washing and doesn't know what on earth she is doing most of the time.
She has carers that will come in everyday once I go home and I know that we could have them come in twice a day but it's the in-between times where no ones there and she's taking stuff out of the freezer putting glass shelves in the oven and all the other things she does that make me think that time is running out for independent living.
Any advice would be much appreciated.
Thank you
xxx
I could do with some advice please, hopefully this hasn't posted twice as my screen shut down when I submitted it last time!
I have taken time off of work to look after my Mum. I live a long way away from her and it has been impossible to try and handle things from so far away and work full time.
I have a social care worker assessing Mum and she has suggested that Mum moves from her sheltered accommodation to be nearer me.
I would love to have my Mum nearer me but they are suggesting that she moves in to accommodation on her own.
My query is this, Mum is very confused, she's 87 and surely moving her at this stage would just make her worse? The care worker seems to think Mum would be bad for a couple of weeks but then forget where she was previously anyway.
I have misgivings about it as I doubt if another Sheltered Housing Scheme would take Mum at this stage and would it be fair to put her through all the upheaval only to then have to move her into a home anyway?
Would she almost be better to move into a home at this stage where she could be close to me so I can visit her and she is safe and well cared for before she gets worse.
She is now at the stage where she is having falls isn't washing and doesn't know what on earth she is doing most of the time.
She has carers that will come in everyday once I go home and I know that we could have them come in twice a day but it's the in-between times where no ones there and she's taking stuff out of the freezer putting glass shelves in the oven and all the other things she does that make me think that time is running out for independent living.
Any advice would be much appreciated.
Thank you
xxx