Hi this might end up as a very big ramble so sorry in advance.
Very stressful week....first 930am Tuesday morning, carer phoned sister mom, fall, found in kitchen. Been there all night. Paramedics called. Nothing done. Found out she has uti.on antibiotics. She had been on floor since 10 the other night.no heating on, mom turned it off. Lucky she didn't freeze to death. Wednesday spent all afternoon with her, mental wise very good not much confusion.but her mobility virtually zero. She fell asleep at dining table unable to get off chair. I helped her to lounge and settee. Carers report in book says mobility no good also found in bed at 10 am when they went to give her breakfast etc,, weed bed as couldn't get up. I reported to sister who has put herself in charge...enough said on that..I got up Thursday messages on phone...mom had fall. No idea why I didn't hear phone.....sister and brother in law been with mom since 4 am when police broke in and got paramedics out....apparently paramedics put her back in bed and left. Sister stayed with her....mom weed bed....I got there 8am sister trying to phone local doc finally had to go to surgery, doc supposed to come out lunch time. Mom in bed snoring..bed wet again. Mom got up 11am both my sisters ther plus me. Much hard work to get her out of bed and wet clothes. Mom totally confused . No idea who I was ...first time...didn't recognise home...I went to work as mom now waiting for doc and sisters staying with her....finally 3pm doc came out only because sister phoned sw doc didn't see the point in visiting... Mom desperate for loo. Doc helped stand her. But didn't help moving her so mom sat down. He said he would get emergency response unit might take three hrs. Might send her to hospital might be carer for 24 hrs might be care home, he didn't know.....said had left everything too long to sort that day....nurses finally came 9pm plus 24 hr carer plus her normal carers. Basically nurses saw her and called 999 wanted her admitted to hospital . Unable to walk. Ambulance came 11pm didn't leave moms till 12am sat in hospital a And e till 5am. No bed for mom. Mom wet through. Unable to move. So mom said. Nurses got her up washed and changed her. Sisters left her there for assessment. I phoned hospital 10am nothing sorted no X Ray no extra antibiotics. They asked if I would like to speak to mom. Mom sounded ok on phone. Wanted to give sisters a break from mom and go visit hospital.so got in touch with both .eldest one says hospital had been on phone and they wanted mom in care home for a week till uti sorted mom had been spoken to and they said she was of sound mind.....mom agrees with everything just to shut you up!! Then goes balistic..sister had to go as mom demanded she sorted it. Mom also refusing antibiotics saying alurgic. I wasn't needed as sisters wanted to go. Middle sister says mom was away with the fairies no idea what was happening. Other sister tells me mom extremely angry, doesn't want to go in home. No mention of X Ray. Mom still wee img herself nurses not bothered. Told sisters to clean her up. So now today waiting to get mom in local home. Could be anytime. They did say it could be anywhere in country but it is at the moment a local one.......I just can't understand why they won't treat her in hospital and check out her hip arm and leg for breakages. My sisters have been great but I am getting comments from them saying they are too old etc to do this.to me it feels like I'm being pushed out, I'm saying I will help or visit etc but they want to do it. They might be trying to protect me as I'm the youngest or they just feel they need her gone into care so they don't have to do much, I just don't know, all I know is it's stressful horrible mind numbing. Been on phone just to oldest sister, I asked if she wanted me to get day clothes etc for mom and help...I can drive she can't..she said she's waiting for nursing home to phone will take clothes then she's going away for a couple of days..............................Monday moms house is being made a bit safer for her return. Bet I'm not wanted for that either....I feel they are trying to gain brownie points....not sure what I should do or not do. My biggest fear is I don't want to go to care home to visit mom....I know that's wrong..can't help it...sorry I will shut up now.....think I will scrub my house from top to bottom feeling very useless at the moment.
Very stressful week....first 930am Tuesday morning, carer phoned sister mom, fall, found in kitchen. Been there all night. Paramedics called. Nothing done. Found out she has uti.on antibiotics. She had been on floor since 10 the other night.no heating on, mom turned it off. Lucky she didn't freeze to death. Wednesday spent all afternoon with her, mental wise very good not much confusion.but her mobility virtually zero. She fell asleep at dining table unable to get off chair. I helped her to lounge and settee. Carers report in book says mobility no good also found in bed at 10 am when they went to give her breakfast etc,, weed bed as couldn't get up. I reported to sister who has put herself in charge...enough said on that..I got up Thursday messages on phone...mom had fall. No idea why I didn't hear phone.....sister and brother in law been with mom since 4 am when police broke in and got paramedics out....apparently paramedics put her back in bed and left. Sister stayed with her....mom weed bed....I got there 8am sister trying to phone local doc finally had to go to surgery, doc supposed to come out lunch time. Mom in bed snoring..bed wet again. Mom got up 11am both my sisters ther plus me. Much hard work to get her out of bed and wet clothes. Mom totally confused . No idea who I was ...first time...didn't recognise home...I went to work as mom now waiting for doc and sisters staying with her....finally 3pm doc came out only because sister phoned sw doc didn't see the point in visiting... Mom desperate for loo. Doc helped stand her. But didn't help moving her so mom sat down. He said he would get emergency response unit might take three hrs. Might send her to hospital might be carer for 24 hrs might be care home, he didn't know.....said had left everything too long to sort that day....nurses finally came 9pm plus 24 hr carer plus her normal carers. Basically nurses saw her and called 999 wanted her admitted to hospital . Unable to walk. Ambulance came 11pm didn't leave moms till 12am sat in hospital a And e till 5am. No bed for mom. Mom wet through. Unable to move. So mom said. Nurses got her up washed and changed her. Sisters left her there for assessment. I phoned hospital 10am nothing sorted no X Ray no extra antibiotics. They asked if I would like to speak to mom. Mom sounded ok on phone. Wanted to give sisters a break from mom and go visit hospital.so got in touch with both .eldest one says hospital had been on phone and they wanted mom in care home for a week till uti sorted mom had been spoken to and they said she was of sound mind.....mom agrees with everything just to shut you up!! Then goes balistic..sister had to go as mom demanded she sorted it. Mom also refusing antibiotics saying alurgic. I wasn't needed as sisters wanted to go. Middle sister says mom was away with the fairies no idea what was happening. Other sister tells me mom extremely angry, doesn't want to go in home. No mention of X Ray. Mom still wee img herself nurses not bothered. Told sisters to clean her up. So now today waiting to get mom in local home. Could be anytime. They did say it could be anywhere in country but it is at the moment a local one.......I just can't understand why they won't treat her in hospital and check out her hip arm and leg for breakages. My sisters have been great but I am getting comments from them saying they are too old etc to do this.to me it feels like I'm being pushed out, I'm saying I will help or visit etc but they want to do it. They might be trying to protect me as I'm the youngest or they just feel they need her gone into care so they don't have to do much, I just don't know, all I know is it's stressful horrible mind numbing. Been on phone just to oldest sister, I asked if she wanted me to get day clothes etc for mom and help...I can drive she can't..she said she's waiting for nursing home to phone will take clothes then she's going away for a couple of days..............................Monday moms house is being made a bit safer for her return. Bet I'm not wanted for that either....I feel they are trying to gain brownie points....not sure what I should do or not do. My biggest fear is I don't want to go to care home to visit mom....I know that's wrong..can't help it...sorry I will shut up now.....think I will scrub my house from top to bottom feeling very useless at the moment.