I would appreciate advice on how to persuade my 91 year old Mother-in-law that now is the time for 24/7 care. She has Alzheimers and there has been a marked deterioration in the past 6 months, forgetting to eat and drink, falling in the street, getting lost, 'losing' her handbag, purse and door keys, putting food and things in strange places etc. She is now having regular blackout episodes where she drops to the floor and is 'vacant' for a couple of minutes. She lives independently but has carers who go in from 8 to 12 every morning and 7 to 9 every evening. However, she is adamant that she needs no help and can care for herself and hates the carers going in so much that she attempts to lock them out. The doctor tried yesterday to say to her that she isn't safe on her own for such long periods but she didn't take it on board. We live in Edinburgh, her other son lives in E Sussex and MiL lives in Leicester so we're all far apart. My husband and I have viewed care homes and have found 2 possibilities. However, we know that she will point blank refuse to consider them and will become very upset at the thought, thinking that she is being 'put away'. Does anyone have any suggestions/ tactics of how we can persuade her that 24/7 care is what she needs please?