In the few months I have been helping my mother's financial situation which was bought to my attention when she showed an invoice for arrears for her service charges. I contacted the company and told them she has alzehemier's Disease and they were most understanding. Last week the company sent me a email saying that my mother's arrears have not been paid. So I showed a copy of this email to my mother and she got very distressed about it. We went to her bank to check whether her arrears have been paid or not and check how whether her bank balance will be enough to cover the arrears and the next charges for services and ground rent. The bank adviser was most understanding and explained to my mother that her current bank balance would not be enough to pay for arrears and the next quarterly services and ground rent. I was shocked to learn that she has been withdrawing a lot of money out the atm machine. Everyday she goes to the shop and buys and hoards food which she doesn't opened and leave them lying around in the kitchen. The bank adviser told her she should closed her credit card account which she refused to do so. My mum was getting very upset upon hearing about her financial situation. I decided to pay off the outstanding arrears and contact the company to ask them if they would allow my mother pay monthly. After contacting them they were most accommodating but they won't accept payments by direct debit but standing order. As my mother is getting increasingly forgetful, I feel she will keep forgetting to pay this by standing order alone.
This has left me with a dilemma. Judging by the state of my mother's financial situation and spending, I feel it would be in her best interests if I would act as her LPOA. I am worried she will spiral further into debt and lose her home which she loves living in. The question is how do I approach this gently with her? Whenever I tried to help her, she tells she is fine and doesn't need any help. She changes the subjects or gets upset. I feel I am walking on eggshells. What is the best approach?
This has left me with a dilemma. Judging by the state of my mother's financial situation and spending, I feel it would be in her best interests if I would act as her LPOA. I am worried she will spiral further into debt and lose her home which she loves living in. The question is how do I approach this gently with her? Whenever I tried to help her, she tells she is fine and doesn't need any help. She changes the subjects or gets upset. I feel I am walking on eggshells. What is the best approach?