So, I've arranged for my mum to have a week's Respite Care at a Care Home - with a view to this being extended permanently. She's due to go in on Friday morning, before lunch sometime. We went to visit last week and she was kind of ok - though had no real awareness of where she was. I haven't told her that she is going as I figured that she would either a/ get really worried and upset about it or b/ get really worried and upset about it, we have a big row and they she forget anyway.
I'm wondering if anyone has any tips on how to best handle this on the day? It's just me on my own - sadly no family backup.
I was thinking of telling her the Dr has said she needs to go in and have a rest for a few days (true - except the Dr said she needed an emergency admission a couple of months back and it never happened). Taking her there and then coming back to pack stuff and do her suitcase and take it over. I thought if I packed the case when she was there, it would give her chance to refuse .... when my mum refuses I have no chance of getting her there.
Does anyone have any tips on how I handle this really difficult day? I'm dreading it - but think it's the right thing to do - even if it's not the easiest for me.
Thanks
I'm wondering if anyone has any tips on how to best handle this on the day? It's just me on my own - sadly no family backup.
I was thinking of telling her the Dr has said she needs to go in and have a rest for a few days (true - except the Dr said she needed an emergency admission a couple of months back and it never happened). Taking her there and then coming back to pack stuff and do her suitcase and take it over. I thought if I packed the case when she was there, it would give her chance to refuse .... when my mum refuses I have no chance of getting her there.
Does anyone have any tips on how I handle this really difficult day? I'm dreading it - but think it's the right thing to do - even if it's not the easiest for me.
Thanks