Hi all,
Firstly this is my first post and apologies if it rambles! I have read a fair few from both people asking advice and people offering support and hats off to all the kindness and knowledge shown on this forum. It is much appreciated, especially from a relative newbie...
Forgive me if this isn't a relevant question but I have managed to glean a lot of information surrounding my mum's condition (Mixed Alzheimers and Vascular Dementia) and I am sure I will have more in the future.
My mum (80) has lots of classical signs (memory loss, confusion, inability to manage her emotions very well) but she is also only at the stage where she can still live independently (dad is full time caring and thankfully robust). Because she can no longer drive or do many of the things that she used to (charity work, etc), she is bored, restless, and spends lots of time brooding over what's happened to her, what she hasn't got, what she can't do. She is awake and gets up at an ungodly hour (like 4am) because she tends to sleep from post 9pm, and has lots of time. She has said she feels diminished by her brain which is entirely understandable but most of the time she is vehement that there is nothing wrong with her and it's all dad's fault for ruining her life.
We take her out often, even if it is just to the local town, she has amazing friends who are all so understanding and active in rallying around and taking her to give dad a break.
We buy her little things like a bunch of flowers so she has something to find a vase for and organise etc and there is always her garden where dad helps her do anything she wants doing subject to the weather. We also got her a cat who thankfully adores her and just wants to sit next to her! But she still has a lot of time on her hands (this morning she was dressed and ready with hat and coat on for a 12 o clock pick up at 6am!).
She also I know does not feel useful. She used to get all her self esteem from doing things for people (she was a Samaritan for 30 years) and now I know feels a bit useless.
Sorry rambling. Does anyone have any insights into something/s/activities/distractions that she can do in the house that will keep her occupied and feeling useful? I know there are 'knitting' etc but she is too old to learn and as she refuses to join any groups because 'there is nothing wrong with her' and now very socially anxious, it is really hard on my dad having to 'entertain her' and half the time she 'hates him'.
Any thoughts appreciated even if it is 'this tends to be the case...'.
Best Fiona x
Firstly this is my first post and apologies if it rambles! I have read a fair few from both people asking advice and people offering support and hats off to all the kindness and knowledge shown on this forum. It is much appreciated, especially from a relative newbie...
Forgive me if this isn't a relevant question but I have managed to glean a lot of information surrounding my mum's condition (Mixed Alzheimers and Vascular Dementia) and I am sure I will have more in the future.
My mum (80) has lots of classical signs (memory loss, confusion, inability to manage her emotions very well) but she is also only at the stage where she can still live independently (dad is full time caring and thankfully robust). Because she can no longer drive or do many of the things that she used to (charity work, etc), she is bored, restless, and spends lots of time brooding over what's happened to her, what she hasn't got, what she can't do. She is awake and gets up at an ungodly hour (like 4am) because she tends to sleep from post 9pm, and has lots of time. She has said she feels diminished by her brain which is entirely understandable but most of the time she is vehement that there is nothing wrong with her and it's all dad's fault for ruining her life.
We take her out often, even if it is just to the local town, she has amazing friends who are all so understanding and active in rallying around and taking her to give dad a break.
We buy her little things like a bunch of flowers so she has something to find a vase for and organise etc and there is always her garden where dad helps her do anything she wants doing subject to the weather. We also got her a cat who thankfully adores her and just wants to sit next to her! But she still has a lot of time on her hands (this morning she was dressed and ready with hat and coat on for a 12 o clock pick up at 6am!).
She also I know does not feel useful. She used to get all her self esteem from doing things for people (she was a Samaritan for 30 years) and now I know feels a bit useless.
Sorry rambling. Does anyone have any insights into something/s/activities/distractions that she can do in the house that will keep her occupied and feeling useful? I know there are 'knitting' etc but she is too old to learn and as she refuses to join any groups because 'there is nothing wrong with her' and now very socially anxious, it is really hard on my dad having to 'entertain her' and half the time she 'hates him'.
Any thoughts appreciated even if it is 'this tends to be the case...'.
Best Fiona x