My mum was diagnosed with Vas Dem/Az two years ago but was showing symptoms for a couple of years before. A few months after diagnos she had a steep mental decline which resulted in her not recognising my dad her husband of 45 years. She became agressive when her attempts to "go home" were thwarted and was sectioned six months later to an assessment unit. Within months her physical health declined dramatically and she became incontinent and developed a really bad stoop which makes it difficult for her to get into bed and sit comfortably. She can still walk ok but has developed a recurring pressure sore on her coccyx which is proving difficult to treat. With all this in mind it was decided mum's care needs could be better met in residential care. However, dad and I feel very guilty about this but accept that we would find it difficult to cope with her at home.
Anyhow, over recent weeks mum has shown signs of being aware of her condition and has said "I wish I could go back to my old life" and "I would give anything to be normal again". These sentiments are expressed succinctly and not the usual muddle of words which make up her usual sentences. She also shows signs of sadness when trying to express herself and I think she realises that things are not the way they should be. I dont think she recognises dad and me most of the time but is comfortable in our presence and talks about me to me but not realising I am in fact her daughter.
The thing that worries me is mum being scared and recognising her plight. It breaks my heart to think of this and feel terribly guilty about leaving her at the care home. The only thing I have taken comfort with in dealing with dementia is thinking that whatever horrible things happen to and around mum is that she very quickly forgets them.
I wonder if others have had experience of their loved ones wishing "to be normal again".
My poor mum's quality of life is so poor and I just wish she was oblivious to what is happening to her.
I just hate this terrible disease and the torment it creates.
Anyhow, over recent weeks mum has shown signs of being aware of her condition and has said "I wish I could go back to my old life" and "I would give anything to be normal again". These sentiments are expressed succinctly and not the usual muddle of words which make up her usual sentences. She also shows signs of sadness when trying to express herself and I think she realises that things are not the way they should be. I dont think she recognises dad and me most of the time but is comfortable in our presence and talks about me to me but not realising I am in fact her daughter.
The thing that worries me is mum being scared and recognising her plight. It breaks my heart to think of this and feel terribly guilty about leaving her at the care home. The only thing I have taken comfort with in dealing with dementia is thinking that whatever horrible things happen to and around mum is that she very quickly forgets them.
I wonder if others have had experience of their loved ones wishing "to be normal again".
My poor mum's quality of life is so poor and I just wish she was oblivious to what is happening to her.
I just hate this terrible disease and the torment it creates.