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Activities in care home

Druid

Registered User
Apr 22, 2015
2
Hello, I have joined TP because I hope someone may be able to help me with some ideas of how to help my mum. She is 89, was diagnosed with Alzheimers 5 years ago and for the past four has lived in a specialist care home only three miles from where I live. She chose the home when she was still well enough to and for the first few years was very happy. But as her dementia has worsened ( as have the other residents) her ability to engage with them has lessened and she doesn't actually do much during the day. It is made worse by her having macular degeneration so can't see very well. The home is lovely, the staff are lovely but my mum says she feels lonely. I work full time but take her out every weekend and try to pop in one evening a week, but does anyone know of any way I can get someone to visit her regularly during the week or to take her out?
 

starryuk

Registered User
Nov 8, 2012
1,305
Hello Druid,

I understand where you are coming from. I thought my mum would benefit from having her own personal 'friend' in her CH. I hired someone privately to go in once a week and spend an hour with mum. It worked really well. As well as that, a really good friend of mine popped in once a week to have a cup of tea with her. I just thought it might be good for her self esteem to have other friends besides a daughter.

I think you could perhaps arrange someone through a care agency or through Crossroads. I understand that Crossroads can provide such a service, but didn't use them. There will be someone who does know more, I am sure, who will be able to help you further.

Let us know how you get on, and best wishes.
 
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nessy22

Registered User
Nov 22, 2014
42
I also understand where you are coming from Druid. My Mum is 85, and is in care home for 3 months. Maybe whee your Mum was a few years ago. So far a lot of friends have rallied round and visited, taken her out etc. especially because she is very active and needs to walk every day. But if that had not happened, a friend of mine ( with experience ) said that it would be worth every penny to pay someone to come in to read/ play dominos/ take walking etc every week for example. I am ready to do that as soon as the friends visit tail off as they must do ( many are all in their 80s). Good luck
 

Druid

Registered User
Apr 22, 2015
2
Thank you both for you replies. I had not heard of Crossroads so I will look in to that possibility.