How do you deal with accusations? My lady has sat and cried and told me she is scared, and wants to move so he cant find her, that she would rather die than go through this horror, she wants it to stop, she doesnt want him to touch her anymore. When he hugs her she stiffens up and looks really anxious.... The problem is, he - is my Dad. And in the past he did hit my mother and was an angry man and I did experience his wrath, and he did indeed scare me a lot too. I am trying to remain neutral, and I have told her grown up children everything she has told me, and that Dad isnt a very tolerant man...but I havent gone into detail about his past, as it was oodles of years ago, and he has changed a heck of a lot since.... And I know AD sufferers can exaggerate situations and say things that dont happen...but I believe my ladys feelings are real... Its is soooooo hard....arrgh! help!