Hi all,
I'm new on here, but am the primary carer for my Gran who has Dementia. We've been through various forms of accusations of stealing - it started last year with her accusing the neighbour of stealing her garden furniture (which hadn't happened at all), and progressed this year to someone coming in and stealing her TVs (again, hadn't happened) and has now progressed to her accusing me of stealing things from her house (TV, cutlery, other things that she won't specify (presumably because she can't?)).
I know that this is the dementia, but I'm getting very threatening phone calls and voicemail messages from her about it all and it's just rattling me. I find it horrible that she thinks I'm stealing from her - I'd never do that and keep stringent records of all bills I pay for her and so on, but I just don't know how to handle this. She shouts and screams at me when I'm on the phone or over there in person.
Has anyone else experienced this or have any advice on what I can do? Distractions don't work and I'm just at the end of my tether with it all.
Thanks in advance.
I'm new on here, but am the primary carer for my Gran who has Dementia. We've been through various forms of accusations of stealing - it started last year with her accusing the neighbour of stealing her garden furniture (which hadn't happened at all), and progressed this year to someone coming in and stealing her TVs (again, hadn't happened) and has now progressed to her accusing me of stealing things from her house (TV, cutlery, other things that she won't specify (presumably because she can't?)).
I know that this is the dementia, but I'm getting very threatening phone calls and voicemail messages from her about it all and it's just rattling me. I find it horrible that she thinks I'm stealing from her - I'd never do that and keep stringent records of all bills I pay for her and so on, but I just don't know how to handle this. She shouts and screams at me when I'm on the phone or over there in person.
Has anyone else experienced this or have any advice on what I can do? Distractions don't work and I'm just at the end of my tether with it all.
Thanks in advance.