I just wanted to share my experience in case it helps others. I've been caring for my very elderly frail mum who has middle stage alzheimers. I felt like I was becoming a horrible angry bitter person due to mum's paranoid delusions, I'd had enough. Hardened my heart, joined a gym, am starting a pt job, will book a holiday soon, & carers have started twice per day. Mum cried when I told her, hated the idea of 'strangers' & there have certainly been quite a few for her to meet. It's been really positive, they've all been so kind to me as well as mum (Age UK). At first I was hovering & twittering showing them where everything was & going into great detail about mum's routines until one kindly but firmly told me to relax & let them get on with it! It's actually encouraged mum to be more independent, she's a bit embarassed about them doing personal care so she's managed to get herself up in the morning a couple of times. She's very sweet 'host mode' with them so far, I feel like I've got my life back. I've accepted that whilst I love her, I don't like her now, & that's OK. Luckily I have finance LPA & mum has the means to self-fund. Hope this might help someone else.