Mums been in a care home since December and I honestly thought my life might be easier but problems and stress just go on and on.
Mostly she's happy but she gets "off" days and I find them very hard. I have POA and am trying to deal with her stuff as best I can. I seem to be making phone calls, reading up on stuff, visiting her most days, trying to cheer her up, worrying about her care home fees which she is funding herself but the money has gone down rapidly. Trying to make her see that selling her house just has to be done etc etc.
I have her here some Sundays for the day, I went up yesterday and took her out for a walk in the sunshine in a wheelchair and I try and sort out any problems she mentions at the Care home.
I feel I have to tread very carefully there as I don't want to upset them because, in the main her care is very good. She's paying £650 a week but she says they only give her small amounts of food and she often feels hungry. I tactfully told them that for her age she has a very good appetite and they said they would give her more. She is supposed to eat fruit every day to keep everything in working order and I told them this but she says often she doesn't get fruit. I reminded them of this and they said "you can always bring in fruit and she can have a fruit bowl in her room" but part of me feels, if she's paying all that surely they can give her a daily banana or peach!
I am so exhausted with everything that there doesn't seem to be any time left for me to relax.
Mostly she's happy but she gets "off" days and I find them very hard. I have POA and am trying to deal with her stuff as best I can. I seem to be making phone calls, reading up on stuff, visiting her most days, trying to cheer her up, worrying about her care home fees which she is funding herself but the money has gone down rapidly. Trying to make her see that selling her house just has to be done etc etc.
I have her here some Sundays for the day, I went up yesterday and took her out for a walk in the sunshine in a wheelchair and I try and sort out any problems she mentions at the Care home.
I feel I have to tread very carefully there as I don't want to upset them because, in the main her care is very good. She's paying £650 a week but she says they only give her small amounts of food and she often feels hungry. I tactfully told them that for her age she has a very good appetite and they said they would give her more. She is supposed to eat fruit every day to keep everything in working order and I told them this but she says often she doesn't get fruit. I reminded them of this and they said "you can always bring in fruit and she can have a fruit bowl in her room" but part of me feels, if she's paying all that surely they can give her a daily banana or peach!
I am so exhausted with everything that there doesn't seem to be any time left for me to relax.