A person in denial
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Hello @Yellow121 and welcome to Talking Point.
This is an increadibly common problem. You wont be able to convince them that there is something wrong and trying to do so will probably just make them angry because they have lost insight into their own condition and are absolutely convinced that they are fine. The way to do it is by stealth. Keep a diary of all the things that concern you and then go and talk to their GP. The GP wont be able to talk to you about them, but they can listen. Many GPs are willing to ask the person with possible dementia to attend a "well woman/man" clinic
where they will also do some memory checks
This is an increadibly common problem. You wont be able to convince them that there is something wrong and trying to do so will probably just make them angry because they have lost insight into their own condition and are absolutely convinced that they are fine. The way to do it is by stealth. Keep a diary of all the things that concern you and then go and talk to their GP. The GP wont be able to talk to you about them, but they can listen. Many GPs are willing to ask the person with possible dementia to attend a "well woman/man" clinic
where they will also do some memory checksShe’s has had a memory check when she was in hospital for her hip ,Hello @Yellow121 and welcome to Talking Point.
This is an increadibly common problem. You wont be able to convince them that there is something wrong and trying to do so will probably just make them angry because they have lost insight into their own condition and are absolutely convinced that they are fine. The way to do it is by stealth. Keep a diary of all the things that concern you and then go and talk to their GP. The GP wont be able to talk to you about them, but they can listen. Many GPs are willing to ask the person with possible dementia to attend a "well woman/man" clinic
But she won’t go any where near the doctors when we suggest it ,
She gets very angry , forgetful, goes off for walks when she dose not get her own way.
What can we do ?
Do you mean that she wont go to the doctor for anything, or are you suggesting that she goes to the doctor for her memory and she then wont go?
Speak to her GP anyway, so that your concerns are on her record, then you might find some reason why she needs to go the the doctor and dont tell her that its also about her memory.
Speak to her GP anyway, so that your concerns are on her record, then you might find some reason why she needs to go the the doctor and dont tell her that its also about her memory.
It’s for anything she’s gets headaches, she has a constant cough which we have suggested going for that . We think she’s frightened of what the doctor will says as sometimes she’s does admit to forgetting things and not knowing where she’s is or where she has been . Her husband can’t go anywhere with out her , even if he is cutting the grass she’s out telling him to get in and she can say really hurt full things and can be very bad mannered when they are out and about which is so not like her .
Hi Yellow, welcome to GO
If you put "denial" in the search bar at the top you'll find what you're asking is now it all starts for so many people. Denial is the normal default for people, acceptance is unusual most of the time.
In their head nothing is wrong even if the rest of the world says differently, the important thing is to avoid conflict by staying on side with them and not confronting someone who firmly believes it's that's in the wrong not them.
K
If you put "denial" in the search bar at the top you'll find what you're asking is now it all starts for so many people. Denial is the normal default for people, acceptance is unusual most of the time.
In their head nothing is wrong even if the rest of the world says differently, the important thing is to avoid conflict by staying on side with them and not confronting someone who firmly believes it's that's in the wrong not them.
K
