Hi there,
I found myself on this page when looking for posts from people coping with the guilt that comes with a loved one suffering from dementia and trying to maintain your own life etc.
I was a sole carer for my mum for over a year on a 24/7 basis. My mum was eventually sectioned and taken away from me and I spent the next 16 weeks with her in a locked ward in hospital. I would visit every day. I have now managed to get her placed into a great care home but as her disease is progressing and people are telling me that I need to take more time for myself I have started to take the odd day off here and there.
My mum is pretty far gone and will often ask me if my mum is still alive. It’s really nothing compared to what we have gone through since she was sectioned but I find myself now feeling guilty if I see a friend or if I go for a walk or do something that she can’t freely do herself.
I cry every day, that’s natural I know but I always put on a brave face in front of my mum and I always try and make her smile.
She loves it when I visit, I’m now her husband in her mind and I just go along with whoever she thinks I am but really, my reason for posting is to get other people’s experience with these feelings and to hear their thoughts.
Love to you all.
Al
I found myself on this page when looking for posts from people coping with the guilt that comes with a loved one suffering from dementia and trying to maintain your own life etc.
I was a sole carer for my mum for over a year on a 24/7 basis. My mum was eventually sectioned and taken away from me and I spent the next 16 weeks with her in a locked ward in hospital. I would visit every day. I have now managed to get her placed into a great care home but as her disease is progressing and people are telling me that I need to take more time for myself I have started to take the odd day off here and there.
My mum is pretty far gone and will often ask me if my mum is still alive. It’s really nothing compared to what we have gone through since she was sectioned but I find myself now feeling guilty if I see a friend or if I go for a walk or do something that she can’t freely do herself.
I cry every day, that’s natural I know but I always put on a brave face in front of my mum and I always try and make her smile.
She loves it when I visit, I’m now her husband in her mind and I just go along with whoever she thinks I am but really, my reason for posting is to get other people’s experience with these feelings and to hear their thoughts.
Love to you all.
Al