I have never had an easy relationship with my mother but it is now getting to the point of me wanting to break off all contact. However I am wondering whether she has signs of dementia do would appreciate any advice please.
I live 200 miles away and visited for her 85 birthday and left on good terms by our standard. The day after I received a really nasty text telling me to return something I'd apparently taken . . I hadn't taken it either deliberately or accidentally. Please note I was asked this was pure nastiness. Since then I have had a cruel letter accusing me of all sorts and another text telling me she can't get the trust back.
As I day it's never been easy but she is now getting very nasty not just to me but to people in the street, salesmen at door - one was told he was fat. She gave marigold gloves to a family friend for Xmas . . I can go on however but . . .
As I say she is 85 not on any medication but has had high pressure in her eyes and usually things like cataracts and hip replacement. Many years ago suffered breast cancer but that was treated successfully. She suffers from frequent uti and that is about is so overall not really doing too bad for her age. She does still drive as well . . .although that might be questionable.
However I would appreciate the views with more experience than I of dementia. . Is this nastiness part of it? If it is how can I get this recognised? If you think I'm off mark please say so.
Thanks in advance
I live 200 miles away and visited for her 85 birthday and left on good terms by our standard. The day after I received a really nasty text telling me to return something I'd apparently taken . . I hadn't taken it either deliberately or accidentally. Please note I was asked this was pure nastiness. Since then I have had a cruel letter accusing me of all sorts and another text telling me she can't get the trust back.
As I day it's never been easy but she is now getting very nasty not just to me but to people in the street, salesmen at door - one was told he was fat. She gave marigold gloves to a family friend for Xmas . . I can go on however but . . .
As I say she is 85 not on any medication but has had high pressure in her eyes and usually things like cataracts and hip replacement. Many years ago suffered breast cancer but that was treated successfully. She suffers from frequent uti and that is about is so overall not really doing too bad for her age. She does still drive as well . . .although that might be questionable.
However I would appreciate the views with more experience than I of dementia. . Is this nastiness part of it? If it is how can I get this recognised? If you think I'm off mark please say so.
Thanks in advance