Hello
Its been a very long time since I have been on here to post (December 2020) mainly because my poor 84 year old father has been evicted from two care homes with his Alzheimer's (no support or anything from Social Worker), he has had pneumonia and hospitalised for 6 days in one home (6 days after arrival despite me telling them he was not right and please get a GP to see him by both myself and the social worker) and then the other home isolated him for 14 days on arrival and he did not cope then put him in his final room in an ancient bed that was not fit for purpose as he required an air mattress and when trying to get to the toilet in the early hours his zimmer slipped on the floor and he lost his balance falling onto a screw sticking out of the ancient metal bed. Paramedics called as it would not stop bleeding and 2 weeks after the initial wound it was infected (no surprise) and he was rushed in the early hours into hospital by ambulance with signs of sepsis. A few days after starting the antibiotics etc he had a scan and they found that he had Endocarditis (an infection of the aortic valve in his heart that required 4 weeks of antibiotics specific to this infection on the cardio ward 6 times per day by IV. He has now been moved to a Rehab Hospital but they feel he will not mobilise again due to the Alzheimer's and that he is in fact fit for discharge after only a week. He has been assessed as requiring 24 hour specialist EMI dementia nursing care and that this is usually within a unit in a care home and he is now apparently in the advanced stages of his Alzheimer's Dementia. When he left his home on the 27th November 2020 he was fully mobile with a rollator, still caring for his 3 cats everyday, still able to chat well and communicate (memory not good but not horrendous) and all in all after all the infections (he has had three chest infections as well after the pneumonia) and the isolation in his room in both homes as he was not given time to settle and feel confident to join in he is now nothing like the man he was and I am beyond broken. I am taking this stress, upset and fear all on my own as my brothers are not interested and I also have my mother in another Nursing Home locally to care for and support. I hate to admit I am so depressed and crying all the time this week since Dad was moved as he is again struggling to settle and he is taking his anger out on me on the telephone and the two visits a week for one hour that I can have. I do not know what way to turn and I get little support from the Social Worker as she is in Wiltshire (my father lived in Wiltshire so they are funding his care in Dorset/Somerset). I have so many other issues to sort out including the sale of the bungalow he owned half of with the late woman he lived with (not as a couple), difficulties with her Grandson who is the beneficiary for her share, other financial matters its a minefield as LPA and in that I have little to no time to care or support myself with my own health issues and I am at breaking point. I have now spoken to Adult Social Care in Dorset Council for some advice on this type of home in Dorset (they are apparently few and far between), the Finance Team at Wiltshire Council have totally mucked up his financial situation as they are stating he owns a property whereas he does not own it outright so how can they base their figures for the property and what his contribution is....I am just beyond being able to cope much longer and I feel broken, guilty, stressed, frightened about losing him my emotions are all over the place. Does anyone have any advice they can offer in respect of this EMI business etc and also how do I get myself back on my feet when I am getting no Carer support from the Social Work team in Wiltshire and of course Dorset is not interested as Wiltshire are funding him. I need help any help anyone can offer. I am so sorry to witter on and be such a nuisance thank you x
Its been a very long time since I have been on here to post (December 2020) mainly because my poor 84 year old father has been evicted from two care homes with his Alzheimer's (no support or anything from Social Worker), he has had pneumonia and hospitalised for 6 days in one home (6 days after arrival despite me telling them he was not right and please get a GP to see him by both myself and the social worker) and then the other home isolated him for 14 days on arrival and he did not cope then put him in his final room in an ancient bed that was not fit for purpose as he required an air mattress and when trying to get to the toilet in the early hours his zimmer slipped on the floor and he lost his balance falling onto a screw sticking out of the ancient metal bed. Paramedics called as it would not stop bleeding and 2 weeks after the initial wound it was infected (no surprise) and he was rushed in the early hours into hospital by ambulance with signs of sepsis. A few days after starting the antibiotics etc he had a scan and they found that he had Endocarditis (an infection of the aortic valve in his heart that required 4 weeks of antibiotics specific to this infection on the cardio ward 6 times per day by IV. He has now been moved to a Rehab Hospital but they feel he will not mobilise again due to the Alzheimer's and that he is in fact fit for discharge after only a week. He has been assessed as requiring 24 hour specialist EMI dementia nursing care and that this is usually within a unit in a care home and he is now apparently in the advanced stages of his Alzheimer's Dementia. When he left his home on the 27th November 2020 he was fully mobile with a rollator, still caring for his 3 cats everyday, still able to chat well and communicate (memory not good but not horrendous) and all in all after all the infections (he has had three chest infections as well after the pneumonia) and the isolation in his room in both homes as he was not given time to settle and feel confident to join in he is now nothing like the man he was and I am beyond broken. I am taking this stress, upset and fear all on my own as my brothers are not interested and I also have my mother in another Nursing Home locally to care for and support. I hate to admit I am so depressed and crying all the time this week since Dad was moved as he is again struggling to settle and he is taking his anger out on me on the telephone and the two visits a week for one hour that I can have. I do not know what way to turn and I get little support from the Social Worker as she is in Wiltshire (my father lived in Wiltshire so they are funding his care in Dorset/Somerset). I have so many other issues to sort out including the sale of the bungalow he owned half of with the late woman he lived with (not as a couple), difficulties with her Grandson who is the beneficiary for her share, other financial matters its a minefield as LPA and in that I have little to no time to care or support myself with my own health issues and I am at breaking point. I have now spoken to Adult Social Care in Dorset Council for some advice on this type of home in Dorset (they are apparently few and far between), the Finance Team at Wiltshire Council have totally mucked up his financial situation as they are stating he owns a property whereas he does not own it outright so how can they base their figures for the property and what his contribution is....I am just beyond being able to cope much longer and I feel broken, guilty, stressed, frightened about losing him my emotions are all over the place. Does anyone have any advice they can offer in respect of this EMI business etc and also how do I get myself back on my feet when I am getting no Carer support from the Social Work team in Wiltshire and of course Dorset is not interested as Wiltshire are funding him. I need help any help anyone can offer. I am so sorry to witter on and be such a nuisance thank you x
