Im disabled and had no help from social services till two weeks ago when after phoning them for help in looking after my 80 yrs.mum they heard her say she hit me with a saucepan if I didn't stop chatting about her! (In past all they said was have a sitter) give them their due someone came next day.shes gotten emergency respite im two days in ...bliss after reading here I can recharge my batteries through im just tidying up for now and looking fo lost items? Found hearing aids/£50 and not nice.. a poo parcel no false teeth. I've been looking after mum two years by myself (my aunt sits on sunday 3hrs so i can see dad)shes goes day care twice aweek four hours fly by! Two questions im going for a DWP assessment today as there making everyone go back on job seekers can the they force me look for work as I've got a job 24/7 (mum) who stays with mum? Im might just take her (and her saucepan) with me to job interviews? Also I can cope with mum with most of her "little ways" except the repeat questions. .people say deflect or change subject, mum has one track mind with this as with "unlock the door I'm going home" 22 times in 50 minutes(the record so far) . So any pointers please .only been on TP since sunday already seen about paracetamol will try this soon.one more question new door on flat now can't lock door if I nip to shops (500 ft) mum takes too long to get ready just for milk.if I lock it she can just turn button lock and walk out shes done it twice (Council says if in afire we dont need to find keys to unlock) Fitted a combination bolt (screwfix £14) I need to do excercise in stairs of flats to keep fit (mum no good on stairs) all i get is "can't lock her in health and safety "how about mums safety? Or my guilt if she gets out again and get hurt.if she sat watching tv and im gone for 20-30mins whats the problem? As I did with the old door.