I met the funeral celebrant yesterday - a lovely man - an ex-police officer and care home area manager! He fell into the funeral business when he conducted his close friends funeral and the crematorium manager asked him if he'd thought of doing it for a living ... that was 13 years ago! I am happy that we are in safe hands.
Music
Coming in - Danny Boy / Daniel O'Donnell
Quiet reflection - Clair de Lune / Debussy
Going out - Annies song - John Denver
Prayer
Just the Lords prayer in the middle as we are in no way religious, but wanted a tiny nod to religion, as there may be some people there that are.
Eulogy
Now all I have to do is write a eulogy! I hope it will raise a smile. I have been asking mum about anything touching or funny she can think of because I don't want it to be sad-sad-sad - it's sad enough already. We already remembered the time when mum looked up from changing my nappy to find a pig in the front garden (the houses behind our house used to be a farm when I was weeny) and a bottle of dads home made wine exploding over my sister in law (before she was my SIL) in the middle of the night when she and my brother were staying at mum and dads many years ago!
I have lots of very lovely memories but don't want it all to be about
my memories of dad ... however not much is forthcoming from others. I remember standing with dad on the patio at the end of the drought of '76 in the rain until we were soaking wet - and that wonderful smell of wet concrete after rain (which I am reliably informed is called 'petrichor') - his poor garden was baked to the bone. I remember getting splinters out of his hard hands with a needle and that he always smelled faintly of creosote
Mum is in such a rush to get it all over with she just said 'don't make it too long' which upset me a bit.
Readings
Two lovely readings -
‘All is well’
by Henry Scott-Holland
and
‘Remember Me’ by David Harkins
So there we are. I hope he would have liked it.