If I were in your position, I'd be throwing in the towel too. Some of us are can cope with being hands-on carers, some of us can't and I knew early on that I was in the latter camp. There's no shame in that. I still cared for my mum by arranging for her to have professional care and you need to do the same. I would be looking at moving him into a residential care home near you and going back to your role of being his daughter.
I may have missed the position re finances so apologies if I have. Would he be self-funding?
I may have missed the position re finances so apologies if I have. Would he be self-funding?