Hi it's a long time since I posted and Mum is in a lovely nursing home after we moved her up here so we could visit more often. Most of the time she glares at me and I know she blames me for putting her in a home but she was a danger to herself and others e.g. getting stuck in the mud by a river, wandering along the hard shoulder of a motorway and wandering around her town in the early hours of the morning. Anyhow it is a lovely home, comfortable, good food and entertainment, trips etc. provided. The last couple of times we have visited she has been lying in bed and I could not get her to sit outside with the other residents in the garden. On 2 occasions they have said they are desperate for bigger clothes for her but I wish they had phoned me before the problem got too bad. She is now a size 20-22 having been a 14-16 before she went in. The staff say she just wanders in to eat her meals then goes back to bed. I know she is a very stubborn person and the staff are really nice but how long can she go on gaining weight and lying in bed?