Hi, I am new to TP so I will just say a little about my situation and hopefully I might get some great tips on how to make my mums and my life a little easier.
Here goes - My mum was diagnosed with dementia about 6 years ago and my dad was her main carer, even though that word could never be used and still can't. Sadly we lost our dad to bowl cancer in Nov 2012 after being diagnosed at the end of March 2012. My mum is just 75 and seems fit and healthy, we can have conversations but she is struggling now with getting the words, I know they are there but they won't come out of her mouth!!! My mum still lives on her own in the house she has lived in since 1978 so she knows where everything is and with sticky post its all over she manages to work all the appliances still. I have a hot meal delivered each eve Mon - Fri which is a god send and 3-4 times a week I take her out and once a week her sister takes her out. The other days of the week I go to check on her to make sure she hasn't hurt herself or broken anything.
My problem is I have 5 children who need me too, and of course a husband. I have a sister who lives at the other end of the country and a brother who lives round the corner but sadly lost his daughter the month before my dad to tragic circumstances. They have now set up a charity in her name and run it full time. My brother rarely visits our mum who gets very upset about it. He says he will go when he can and thats that.
My mum won't go to any groups that I have suggested, so I can't get her to meet anyone new, even though there are things out there that I think she would like.
My other problem is when I go on holiday I have no one to take over my role - if any one has a solution to this problem I would be very grateful.
Here goes - My mum was diagnosed with dementia about 6 years ago and my dad was her main carer, even though that word could never be used and still can't. Sadly we lost our dad to bowl cancer in Nov 2012 after being diagnosed at the end of March 2012. My mum is just 75 and seems fit and healthy, we can have conversations but she is struggling now with getting the words, I know they are there but they won't come out of her mouth!!! My mum still lives on her own in the house she has lived in since 1978 so she knows where everything is and with sticky post its all over she manages to work all the appliances still. I have a hot meal delivered each eve Mon - Fri which is a god send and 3-4 times a week I take her out and once a week her sister takes her out. The other days of the week I go to check on her to make sure she hasn't hurt herself or broken anything.
My problem is I have 5 children who need me too, and of course a husband. I have a sister who lives at the other end of the country and a brother who lives round the corner but sadly lost his daughter the month before my dad to tragic circumstances. They have now set up a charity in her name and run it full time. My brother rarely visits our mum who gets very upset about it. He says he will go when he can and thats that.
My mum won't go to any groups that I have suggested, so I can't get her to meet anyone new, even though there are things out there that I think she would like.
My other problem is when I go on holiday I have no one to take over my role - if any one has a solution to this problem I would be very grateful.