Thank you for all your advice folowing my indecision in February over choosing a care home for mum who has vascular dementia.I am pleased to say that I finally settled on a good home, mum moved in at the beginning of May and all has been well until now.
Today I visited to find mum wearing her nightdress over a pair of trousers and a vest neither of which belonged to her (and a size too small). Her hair was unkept but much worse she was also wearing someone else's glasses and couldn't read a thing. Reading her paper is one of the last pleasures left to her. I got her changed and did her hair so she at least looked decent, found a carer and told her about the missing glasses.
I realise that this could just be a temporary blip but am I expecting too much for mum to be dressed properly in her own clothes? The missing glasses are worrying as they still hadn't turned up by the time I had to leave.
Mum is in a mixed CH and lives in the residential area rather than on the specialised dementia unit because, when the home carried out the pre-admission assessment, they considered that her needs would be best met there. Howver there are several other residents with dementia on this unit. Also today the gentleman sitting next to mum had her wallet in his bag. It's empty because we're discouraged from leaving valuables but mum likes to rummage in it for phone numbers and photos.
Anyway should I complain? The missing glasses will be expensive to replace but more important is mum's well being and dignity being compromised by a lack of care or am I expecting too much?
Today I visited to find mum wearing her nightdress over a pair of trousers and a vest neither of which belonged to her (and a size too small). Her hair was unkept but much worse she was also wearing someone else's glasses and couldn't read a thing. Reading her paper is one of the last pleasures left to her. I got her changed and did her hair so she at least looked decent, found a carer and told her about the missing glasses.
I realise that this could just be a temporary blip but am I expecting too much for mum to be dressed properly in her own clothes? The missing glasses are worrying as they still hadn't turned up by the time I had to leave.
Mum is in a mixed CH and lives in the residential area rather than on the specialised dementia unit because, when the home carried out the pre-admission assessment, they considered that her needs would be best met there. Howver there are several other residents with dementia on this unit. Also today the gentleman sitting next to mum had her wallet in his bag. It's empty because we're discouraged from leaving valuables but mum likes to rummage in it for phone numbers and photos.
Anyway should I complain? The missing glasses will be expensive to replace but more important is mum's well being and dignity being compromised by a lack of care or am I expecting too much?