After a very difficult couple of weeks where Mum was climbing stepladders, had a TIA, had a fall and didn't call for help for over 6 hours plus concerns about dehydration and sessions of not taking Meds, it became clear things couldn't go on as they are. DH and I were at breaking point, our health suffering, DC's suffering, sure you all know the picture.
Mum went to respite and lasted 2 days (it was there manager expressed concerns re dehydration). We found a self contained flat within a CH which would have given Mum a decent amount of independence but with all the support needed. She doesn't want to go however and has asked we arrange Live In Care. She doesn't have a good track record with Carers and there have been complaints about her plus she hates people in her home but is apparently so desperate to avoid a CH that she is prepared to do this.
My Brother had kindly taken over and is going to start ringing round tomorrow to see what he can sort. It's hard for him as he lives overseas and hasn't seen her for 4 years so I thought I'd ask the collective wisdom of TP for some pointers to help him ask the right questions of the Agencies. It needs to work so the only input I need to have is take her to the Memory Clinic etc and out for coffee, he will be the first point of contact from now on. Her legs need washing, creaming and surgical stickings put on daily as she has cellulitis. She lives in a 2 bed bungalow if that is relevant. Any advice gratefully received, thanks.
Mum went to respite and lasted 2 days (it was there manager expressed concerns re dehydration). We found a self contained flat within a CH which would have given Mum a decent amount of independence but with all the support needed. She doesn't want to go however and has asked we arrange Live In Care. She doesn't have a good track record with Carers and there have been complaints about her plus she hates people in her home but is apparently so desperate to avoid a CH that she is prepared to do this.
My Brother had kindly taken over and is going to start ringing round tomorrow to see what he can sort. It's hard for him as he lives overseas and hasn't seen her for 4 years so I thought I'd ask the collective wisdom of TP for some pointers to help him ask the right questions of the Agencies. It needs to work so the only input I need to have is take her to the Memory Clinic etc and out for coffee, he will be the first point of contact from now on. Her legs need washing, creaming and surgical stickings put on daily as she has cellulitis. She lives in a 2 bed bungalow if that is relevant. Any advice gratefully received, thanks.