Dear babyface,
I`m glad you finally been able to post. I`d like to welcome you to TP and am so sorry you are so distressed about your mother`s seemingly rapid deterioration.
There doesn`t seem to be any explanation for the rate of decline in different people. Some decline very slowly, some in fits and starts, with plateaux in between, and some go downhill very quickly.
It seems even before your mum was admitted for assessment, your dad found her impossible to cope with. Then the care home couldn`t help and now she is causing concern in hospital. All this time, she has been moved to different places, causing even more confusion.
My mother lost all her communication skills in the care home, and became incontinent. She too wandered along the corridors all the time. On day, I arrived to visit her and found her strapped to a chair.
I really don`t know what to say to you. It really is a dreadful illness, and so hard to live with.
I hope you get some comfort from this forum, where so many are going through the same agony. It won`t help your mum, but I hope in some ways it will help you.
Take care
Love xx