Most nights now Dad phones me (he lives next door) at least once to say he's in desperate trouble and needs me to go help him. The trouble's always a delusion or hallucination of some kind - his living room's been smashed to pieces and burnt out, or all the things in the room look like his things but they're not real. So I go round at 1 or 2 in the morning and listen to him and try to calm him down. Sometimes after an hour or so he will come round from the delusion, and I can settle him down to sleep again, but it's really tiring for him and for me. (I'm not asking for sympathy - I know I'm lucky it's not worse.) The trouble is I'm finding it more and more difficult to follow the compassionate listener guidelines, especially when it's the middle of the night. I keep wanting to say What about me Dad? You've woken me up in the middle of the night again for nothing. I'm tired and I just want to sleep. Sometimes I do find myself saying it, and if he takes in what I'm saying it can really upset him. I need some kind of technique to stop myself saying these stupid things to him. Ideally I'd go away for a while and calm down and then come back, but if I try to leave him he's distraught. What do other people do to get beyond that mean little voice inside that says go away and leave me alone?