He is 65, and all our 42 years together he has been a wonderful, helpful, attentive loving husband. Friends used to envy me the way I was treated like a queen.
Now, he calls me horrible names, swears at me, says I have controlled his whole life, and everything has to be my way, he has no life. I am shocked and stunned, it´s like a different man has moved in with me. He has always been a drinker, and actually attended a rehab programme for 2 years, and although he says he´s stopped, he hasnt, but it is 1000% less than before, but unfortunately when he starts his rants at me, I usually suspect he has been drinking, although it is not immediately obvious, which is why I am now thinking it could be dementia. He is sooooo hurtful to me, and doesnt seem to care - if I cry, he just says, "here comes the dramatics"....this is such a personality change, and I am finding it hard. I dont have good health, have 10 stents in my arteries, and had a stroke, the stress is horrendous.
Now, he calls me horrible names, swears at me, says I have controlled his whole life, and everything has to be my way, he has no life. I am shocked and stunned, it´s like a different man has moved in with me. He has always been a drinker, and actually attended a rehab programme for 2 years, and although he says he´s stopped, he hasnt, but it is 1000% less than before, but unfortunately when he starts his rants at me, I usually suspect he has been drinking, although it is not immediately obvious, which is why I am now thinking it could be dementia. He is sooooo hurtful to me, and doesnt seem to care - if I cry, he just says, "here comes the dramatics"....this is such a personality change, and I am finding it hard. I dont have good health, have 10 stents in my arteries, and had a stroke, the stress is horrendous.