Mum's journey is over now.

[sunray]

My Mum died on Tuesday morning 5.20 am, she is finally at peace. I am glad and sad at the same time. After such a long time as her caregiver as well as Ray's and pre-2000 Dad's I am now free to move on after whatever grieving period I find necessary. I think I will be okay but who knows how I will react in the future?

The funeral arranger said: "It seems such a short time since I saw you last" and it is just two months and a day. My older friends are rallying around again, some knew Mum from when she lived with Ray and I for two years and some have seen her since she has been in care as one of the church ladies was in her room and they visited her too.

I had Mum dressed in her Norman Hartnell dress, it was a family joke really as she always said: "The Queen has Norman Hartnell dresses too." I told her it would be her last best dress. My sister and I did meet to discuss the funreral arrangements so I am hoping it all comes together as Ray's did two months ago.

Keep me in your thoughts as I struggle to maintain some peace and calm in my life amids the chaos.

Sue.

 

[jenniferpa]

Sue - I am so sorry. I just loved the Norman Hartnell dress.

Take care of yourself.

 

[Nanak]

Been thinking of you Sue.
It will be a very hard few weeks. Sending hugs ....
Nanak

 

[sussexsue]

I never know whether to be sad or relieved in this situation - both I guess. You have had to deal with so much and I am in no doubt that the next few months, or even years are going to be very hard, with many mixed emotions, and often feeling totally emotionless.

You have been amazing with the love you have shown to your family.

(((hug)))

Sue

ps: Norman Hartnell - how stylish.

 

[DeborahBlythe]

Dear Sue, I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your mum, and so soon after losing Ray. You must be feeling shell-shocked. Every sympathy to you and your family. Please take care of yourself and please stay with us if you can or indeed want to. We are always here. Love from Deborah

 

[BeckyJan]

I am so sorry to hear this news, Sue, and it seems doubly difficult so soon after Ray's passing.

Its good to hear that your friends are rallying around. My thoughts are definitely with you at this time. Keep in touch.

 

[grove]

Much Love & Support

Hello Sue , Am so sorry to read that your Mum has passed away & hope you find comfort that she is at Peace . Sending much Love , Sympathy & Support for today & in the weeks to come


Take care & you will be in my thoughts today

Lots of Love Grove x x

 

[sonia owen]

Sorry to read your thread. Keep strong.Lovely that your mum is in her dress that you know she will be comfortable in.
Thats lovely.
Take care
Love Sonia xxxx

 

[littlegem]

Sue you have had a really tough time last few years, your lovely Mum is at peace and, after the funeral, it will definately be time for you to have some calm and peace in your life.
Wishing you strength for the coming weeks.
Take care of yourself.
xxxx

 

[jeany123]

Sending sympathy and strength for you ,


Jeany xx

 

[winda]

Dear Sue, wishing you strength and courage to get you through everything.
Thinking of you and sending much love xx

 

[tp18]

Sue, there is not much I can add, except to echo what has already been said. Sorry for your loss, but hopefully you can gain some comfort knowing that your mum is sailing on to calmer seas xx

 

[2jays]

Thinking of you Sue.
The TP circle of hugs is here when you need us xx

 

[Grannie G]

Dear Sue

sussexsue`s `sad and relieved` echoes my feelings for you too. Please accept my sincere condolences. xx

 

[turbo]

Hello Sue, I am sorry to read your sad news about your mum. My sincere condolences.


turbo

 

[ellejay]

Dear Sue, please accept my condolences. Thinking of you.

Lin x

 

[Claire]

Dear Sue

I am so sorry to hear this, but I know what you mean when you say you are sad and glad - your mum's, and your journey has been so long. You have had so much to bear, with this double blow, and I hope you will be able to look forward to some more peaceful and relaxed times in due course. Wishing you peace and strength for the coming weeks, and hopefully time for yourself in the future.

Take care,

Claire x

 

[Witzend]

Glad for both your sakes that the sad, painful waiting is over, and wishing you that peace and calm - you've been through so much.
I loved the Hartnell dress, too.

 

[Kathphlox]

So sorry to hear this sad news Sue, please accept my condolences.

Into every life a little rain must fall.. it seems to be you've had a thunderstorm to deal with

 

[Soobee]

so sorry to hear this. x