lost mum last thursday,been in a care home for 2 years with dementia,and over the last few months declined quite quickly.Went into hospital with a urinary infection 4 weeks ago,virtually stoped eating and drinking and also lost mobility.In the carehome could never keep still always on the go and had things to do.Released to a nursing home last Monday seemed to be doing OK was eating and drinking a little with lots of encouragement,Thursday dinner refused to eat or drink and started having breathing difficulties(rattle),when i got there at 2 wasn't very good at all,I was asked if i wanted to lift the DNR which had been carried over from the hospital,but looking at her laid in bed,hardly recognisable with the amount of weight shes lost over the last month and being immobile I said no.She died at 4-20, I'm certain it wouldn't have made any difference,but i feel so guilty at not giving her a chance.