Hi Cyprusbreeze
My dad was just diagnosed last year with Vascular Dementia at the age of 60. He had a stroke last April and everything went downhill for him after that. At the beginning, my dad was aware that something wasn't right with him but didn't know what it was. He would say that he'd either been knocked over by a bus or attacked by 2 men which caused something to happen in his head. Unfortunately, the illness progressed quite quick with my dad over the following 6 months (we didn't have a diagnosis at this point)and we had to watch him constantly go in and out of hospital. He suffered terrible bouts of aggressive behaviour during this period too and it got that we couldn't cope with it and he was finally admitted to an assessment ward where the diagnosis was finally confirmed. That was in November and we found it hard to accept that this illness could come on so abruptly and progress as quick as it did. We gave his doctors a run down over his health for the last few years and they feel that the stroke was the straw that broke the camels back as such!!!
We ourselves were ignorant to dementia and the many types there are and the vast range of symptoms that can manifest from it. After reading just about everything on the illness to try and help us make sense of it and understand it, we now feel that this has been working on my dad over the last few years. He had a brain haemorrhage 8 years ago and although we initially thought he came through it quite well, looking back we can see that various symptoms of dementia were actually showing since then. I think the reason we didn't notice these back then was because it was things that we would never have associated with dementia. He wasn't forgetful or anything like that but his personality changed, he became obsessed with money and would often accuse my mum or me & my sister of spending or stealing his money. He would talk about things that had never happened and until the stroke, still firmly believed that these events occurred.
I think believing that this may have started many years ago, helps me understand better as to why it may have progressed so quick last year rather than it just happening and snowballing from there. At first I couldn't get to grips with how they described the progression of Vascular Dementia as step-wise because it just seemed to keep going down and down with my dad. Now a year on in, I can see that those 6 months was one of the step downs in my dads condition, albeit a big step, and since February he has stabilised again.
I don't think i'll ever fully understand this illness and every day so far has been a learning curve and it will probably continue to be so. I am just taking this stable period at the moment to spend time with my dad and make life as enjoyable for him as i possibly can.
Take Care x