Mum goes to the nursing home today I am up since five viewing and looking for tips and making lists. I know I should not feel guilty but I do. My eldest son (36) was down last night and we had tea together -lovely. I got granny to sing " I have heard the mavis singing" a song her father loved, for my son and I thought he was going to break down he calls gran his ledgend she has lived with us for virtually all of his life and spoiled him rotten. When he left he hugged me tight and said I don't want this to happen mum but I know it needs to ( I am so proud of all my children) My darling husband is coming with me and I have insisted my brother ( just the two of us) comes too ( how can some people not feel responsible for a parent) I need to share this burden please think of us this afternoon 2.30 and send me the strength I need to get through this I hope my mum settles but I have a feeling she will guilt trip me again. love to you all liz